Time changes.... so do people.....

10 yrs back,
He: " I love you....nee ondi serinu sonnena naan unnai thattila vechu thaangaren!"

9 yrs ago,
" Baby, I cannot even imagine one moment of seperation from you. How will I live without you?"

8 yrs ago,
"Sometimes its necessary to stay apart when we have things to achieve, careers to concenterate on.....we know we love each other so why do we have to cling together every minute? These 2 years will fly fast I promise, my love"

6 yrs back,
" Honey, See these 2 years flew so fast, why not another 4 years? If I come back now then I might regret it for my entire life...you do not want that right?"

2 years back,
"Sorry I know did not get a chance to talk to you last evening but so what if we do not talk for a day? We are going to be talking for the rest of our life once we are together!"

Now,
He : "Hey dude....sorry I did not return your calls the last 3 days...work kept me busy and in the evening these guys want to party everyday..so hard to even get to the phone....yeah yeah I love u too U should know that since u have been with me the last 10 years...how can you even ask me such a question as to whether I love you? Have I ever asked you that?
Appram I shall call u this weekend and not before that because I am too stressed out even to talk now a days......
If you have any probs you can always handle it you are very strong....catch ya later...Bye!"

Her heart grieves with pain but she continues her life with a smile as if nothing has changed......

Why the outright kiss?

This is a parallel story to Logic’s ‘Outright Kiss’. Read this here first.

When Ramesh proposed to me, my first thoughts were about you. I rushed to you ….
"Vijay, you gotto tell da...else i wont accept him"’ I said.
I was hoping the answer would be "Vendam Kavi….I love you more…please be with me".
But you acted as if you did not care.
When Ramesh left Chennai, I turned to you again for everything. I was hoping our friendship would blossom into something more. I even mentioned that I did not love Ramesh anymore. Again you acted as if you did not care.
You came with me everywhere, support me in everything but nothing beyond that.
I wanted to show you I love you…..I even bunked my exams to take care of you……you thanked me like any other friend would have.
I was heart broken for days. How much more can a girl put herself out there?
Suddenly I received a letter from Ramesh saying that he is coming back and he wants to be with me again. He said he would make amendments for all the pain he caused me.
I was in a fix…..do I go back to the person who had the courage to say he loved me or do I hang around waiting for a person who never recognized my love?
"Let me invite him to airport with me and maybe the pressure will make him say something" I decided.
The plane from Zurich landed but so far nothing other than comments about passing women. I gave up!
In frustration and confusion I ran to Ramesh and kissed him then outrightly!
“Serves you right, Vijay” I thought “for having made me believe that I am more than a friend to you but doing nothing about it.”

Frozen!!!

Guess what the temperature here was a couple of days ago? - 12 F (that is approx -25C)!!!!!! That is freaking cold for a person from the ovens of Madras!!!! And in this lowest of the low temperatures I had to go pick up a friend from the bus station up at 3.00 am. At this ungodly hour, my car refused to heat up for a good 30 mins...by the time it did, I was back home again with frozen fingers. That was the coldest day of the year I think!
Here's a description of my daily attire in the winter- thermals, sweater, jeans, fleece jacket, winter jacket, gloves, scarf,hat, woolen socks and shoes. I wrap my scarf around my neck and face so only my eyes peep out. Dressing up this way also serves as a good way of finding out who my true friends are! You see.... not many people recognise me if I am dressed this way but my close friends!! This other day, I see a similarly attired guy walking towards me...both of us stop.... stare into each others eyes for what seems eternity till I recoginze him as a close friend! Sometimes I even wave to people who I don't know but assume it's somebody familar!!! Good time to make new friends too!
One good thing about dressing this way is you can keep wearing the same clothes inside everyday and nobody (but the people who work with you) know! Same black jacket every single day..but I pep myself with 3 different glove, scarf, hat sets to mix n match - purple, blue and black!
Also not to forget the many falls I have slipping on the ice...thankfully nothing hurt till now except my ego when from "well wishers" call out to me to walk carefully everytime they see me!
Last but not the least, here are a few tips to survive a cold winter (and also not to look stupid in the process):

1. Never over estimate your capacity...especially you guys who think it is macho to wear nothing but a cotton shirt when its freezing. We girls do not think its macho, we just think that you are too cheap to buy a winter jacket!
2. Take baby steps on the ice.......better to look like a vaathu walking on the streets than to lie splatterred like a pushnikkai!
3. Do not use your umbrella when it snows...it looks stupid!
4. Do not wear a monkey cap too for the same reason.
5. Find a good friend who will be ready to make you bajjis and tea when you are on the way home from a rough cold day (this is the best remedy for the winter)
6. If a friend calls you for the same favour, say that you have been stranded in the lab due to the snow ......go to her place after an hour..she will most probably have the bajjis ready by then.
7. Have 2 jobs - one down south where you can go during winter.
8. Alternatively have 2 wives/girlfriends/boyfriends/husbands - preferably one of them stationed somewhere warm, so you can visit them every weekend or when it gets too cold!
9. Hibernate from Nov to March.

What would you do if this were your last day on earth?

This question was asked by one of the charecters on Grey's Anatomy last week and this set me thinking. What would I want to do if this were my last day on earth? I am sure you will all agree that each one of us will have a list of philanthropic things to do.....hence I am going to narrow down the list (omiting things like give money to the needy, donate organs etc etc) and just tell you the things I would like to do.....

• Stop research at the instant I hear that this is the last day and run out of my lab.....gathering my possessions from there
• Ferverently beg God to give me more time to waste on this earth!
• Withdraw the meagre savings from my bank and distribute it to my family, clear debts and keep some for me (to spend on my last day ofcourse!).
• Talk to my parents explaining why I did certain things and ask for their forgiveness.
• Tell my family how much I love them.
• Tell my beloved how much I love him......
• Buy gifts for him - one for each year that he will spend without me......
• Tell a certain someone how much they mean to me.....ask them if I mean as much?
• Eat bhelpuri......
• Eat lots of other things...if I am going then why bother about calories???
• Get together with friends and have a blast...
• Try drinking, smoking etc since I have always wanted to try but never had the courage to do so.....
• Watch 'Friends' for sometime
• Spend the rest of whatever time is left at the beach.

What would you do if this were your last day on the earth?

(I do not want you thinking depressing thoughts but this does provide you a new prospective on life doesn't it?)

Valentine's day

Ok....come on now there should definetely be a post for this day right? But what do I write about....love? what I want for V day? What I am giving ? Or what my best V day has been so far??? hmm......
Anways this day always reminds of my first V day when I was in college...I am getting ready to go college and Amma says - "Di do not accept any card or gifts from anybody in college."
Me (acting innocent) - " Chee ma how can u say that? Na poi kanda pasanga kiitenthu card vaangu venna?
Amma (suspicious) -" Therinja pasanga kittenthum vaangatha...!"
Me (exasperated) - "Seri ma ippo aala vidaraiya!!" and escape....
Makes me smile everytime I remember this.......
Seri seri enuf of mothers on V Day!

First year - We all (boys and gals) decided to do a mass celebration of V day; girls tied red satin ribbons on their hair to mark the occassion and then we all went and had Kwality Ice cream.
Second year - 'He' convinced me that friends could celebrate V day too...so he gave me 2 audio cassesttes called 'Love Blossoms' (hindi collection) .....Onnume puriytha mathiri I took it home!
Third year - We mututally exchanged "friendship" gifts on Valentine's Day !
Fourth year - Totall lovey dovey exchange of 'I love u sooooo much' cards and heart shaoed gifts......
And so on goes our story....
Now after our marriage.......
Me - " What are you getting me for V day?"
He - " Enna venumo nee ye solidu...appram ithu athu nu crib pannatha"
Me - " I think V Day is being over rated these days and also I have decided to save money this year..so let's get something cheap for each other!"
He - "Hmm...nee ippdai than solluva appram na cheapa ethavathu vaanginena nee kochupa!"
and so went our conversations......let's see what V day brings!!!

But all said and done........."Honey, U r the best Valentine I can ever get!"

Listening time!

Check this out..... http://tcastle.com/sweetiepie.html (keep your speakers on!)....
I love the voice of the kid on this one........
Sweet na???!!!!!!

I miss.....

our long chats into the night,
the zillion emails we exchanged every day about nothing,
our frequent fights and tearful make-ups,
cooking together,
long drives,
your attempts to make me smile when I am down,
my attempts to cheer you up when you act as if is nothing is wrong but in reality everything is,
your sole attention directed towards me when there are 20 more people in the room,
you wanting to hanging around after everybody leaves,
our chats in the car, corridor, stairs, lab, anywhere we meet,
your attention to my small whims,
watching movies with you,
I miss everything about us,
I miss not having you as my best friend anymore.