January 16, 2008

Whats for Dinner, Honey????


What has 2 hands, 2 feet, a big appetite and does not want to cook or clean? Answer: A married man. I can see hear you swear and say "Hey! I share the daily house work !". Well, consider yourself as one of the few married to a darn lucky gal! I should confess that I am one of the few who is lucky on most days when my guy offers to help around. Why am I letting steam stressing specifically on the word MARRIED man? Because this man before he got married was perfectly capable of making the perfect chicken tikkas, keep his house tidy, doing his own laundry etc etc and once he ties the knot, POOF! pops the question "What's for dinner, Honey?" This is not a myth! This happens with 70% of the people I know. Its not just the guys who are ingrained this way but the elders of the society are of no help either . Long distance phone conversations always start by asking the gal what she cooked today, and to the guy about what he thinks of India's situation wrt cricket?. Why not the guy? And sometimes the gal even thinks it is her "duty" to serve the family. Can you believe this, in this age of Oprah and Hillary? One of my friends says, "My wife likes to be in-charge of the kitchen, so she never lets me enter." I think thats a BS excuse, my friend!!!
I agree ofcourse that this generation of men are better than the generation of our fore-fathers who never entered the kitchen come what may. But why does society expect the woman to be the house keeper? Why not the man pitch in when the woman is working her ass of during the day at her own job?
To those out there, who are not anything like the species I ranted about.....Kudos to you! You are savvy!!! And keep that up!
I am not a hard core feminist or anything but just want to put this thought out there...if you are a guy and reading this blog, never say " Whats for dinner, honey" but say "What shall WE make for dinner, honey?". Believe me, thats not only the best way to your gal's heart but also lays the foundation for a very strong family.
Amen!

7 comments:

Kavitha Jay said...

hey hey...how u been??

enna ore pollambals ahh irrukku...i know how you feel...its just wired in the guys brain to push the women into the kitchen...

enna panna mudiyum..if we trace couple of hundrend yrs back..men used to go to hunt and bring back the food..while women used to cook that...but these days even women r working der ass off just like any other men...so not share the burden...hmmmm

namma solli enna prayojanam...

dakaltiz said...

hey kirukks....glad u posted after a long long time...welcome back :)

comin to the post... mmm .. i feel that this situation is fast changin nowadays....% of guys sharing the kitchen is on the increase.... ;)

apart from cookin, i guess the other home making stuff is an art that comes naturally to gals rather than guys...

n e ways unga advice takin... but reality la looks like v got to teach cookin to the gals nowadays..:)

Heidi Kris said...

Hey welcome back madam! How have you been doing? Ena post post-marriage pathi iruku? You married kya?

Nivya Kimbi said...

hii.. ya man!! the last line really does magic on us!!! lol

Kirukal said...

thanks for checking in guys! Have been busy lately ...that or nothing inspiring happening to post...will come back soon!

Kirukal said...

thanks for checking in guys! Have been busy lately ...that or nothing inspiring happening to post...will come back soon!

dakaltiz said...

enne kiruks....after a long time i checked ur space and still update ethuvum illiye .. hope all is well with u..